What a 16-Year-Old Taught Me About Making Disciples

I was 22 years old, fresh out of the classroom, armed with theology and absolutely clueless about real
ministry.
His name was Dan Boyd. He was 16. And he knew something I didn't.
I had the degree. He had the relationships. I could explain the Great Commission. He was living it. Dan
had taken a younger friend named Tim under his wing and was simply investing his life in him —
spending time together, talking about Jesus, letting faith spill over into everyday conversation. No
curriculum. No program. No strategy deck.
I watched it happen and slowly realized I was witnessing something ancient. Something Jesus had
modeled. Something the early church had practiced before we got sophisticated enough to replace it with
better systems.
Forty years later, Tim still meets weekly with nine men. Dan pastors a thriving church. And I finally
stopped being surprised by any of it.
Here's the thing about disciplemaking that took me too long to learn: it doesn't require a seminary degree.
It doesn't require a clever program or a charismatic personality or a perfect life. It requires time. It requires
love. It requires someone willing to let another person close enough to actually see how they live.
Most of us have been trained to think of disciplemaking as an event — a class, a small group, a
curriculum. We sign people up, run them through the content, hand them a certificate, and wonder why
nothing really changes. The content was fine. The problem was the container.
Jesus didn't run a classroom. He invited twelve men to follow him — literally walk with him, eat with him,
watch him pray, hear him confront the Pharisees, see him weep at a tomb. The classroom was his life.
The curriculum was the relationship.
What would change in your church if you stopped treating disciplemaking as a program and started
treating it as a way of life?
I've spent five decades planting churches. More than 2,600 of them across California, Hawaii, the
Philippines, Mongolia, and Africa. And the thread connecting every lasting movement I've ever seen is not
a clever strategy. It's face-to-face disciplemaking. Ordinary people investing their lives in other ordinary
people who do the same.
In Mongolia, the Christian population grew from three believers in 1989 to six percent of the population in
just a few decades. Not through crusades. Not through imported programs. Through ordinary Mongolian
believers who met someone, befriended them, introduced them to Jesus, and then spent time helping
them grow.
You probably have a Dan Boyd in your life right now. Someone younger, maybe newer to faith, maybe
not yet in faith — who needs you to stop being a lecturer and start being a friend with a purpose.
That's where disciplemaking starts. Not in a classroom. In a coffee shop. In a car. On a walk. In the
messy, ordinary overlap between your life and theirs.
You don't need a new program. You need a new posture.
What would it look like this week to spend an hour with someone you're already in relationship with — not
to teach them, but to live life alongside them and include Jesus in the conversation?
Dan Boyd didn't plan to change my understanding of ministry. He just loved his friend Tim. And that
changed everything.
Want to go deeper? This blog draws on themes from Making Disciples: Developing Lifelong
Followers of Jesus (2nd edition) by Ralph Moore — a practical, story-driven guide to the ancient practice
that builds movements. Available on Amazon: [search "Making Disciples Ralph Moore"].